My Life

An Open Letter to the People Who Were Wrong

Today, my baby sister got married. My sister is a beautiful, wonderfully sensitive, caring person. She is also 35 years old and this is her first marriage. She did not put off getting married and having a family for a career. She has, in fact, dreamed of this day for many years.

Dreams are hard sometimes. They are so vivid in your heart but life has a way of trampling all over them. For as long as I can remember, my sister has received jabs from others about why she wasn’t married. Jabs that wounded. Jabs that hurt and left her in tears. Jabs that caused the wait to be much harder.

The jabs my sister received were not from mean people, trying to hurt her. They were from well-meaning people. People who thought if they gave one more bit of advice, it would somehow change her circumstances. The jabs came from Christians who thought it was naïve of her to believe God would just send the man of her dreams to her doorstep. The jabs came from “friends” who wanted to fix her up with anything male and breathing regardless of their morals or intentions.

Jabs came in many forms.

When are you getting married?

You just need to get out more.

You’re too picky.

What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you married yet? (That’s my personal favorite)

But then…

My sister was at home, not bar-hopping, not participating in a singles group, not out trying to meet someone, when she was contacted by a family member we rarely see. She told my sister she had someone she wanted her to meet. My sister agreed. He contacted her on Facebook and they started chatting. They have been inseparable since that moment.

It’s interesting to me how God works. He did, indeed, send the man of her dreams to her doorstep. She didn’t have to do anything to make it happen. She didn’t pursue him, he pursued her. Exactly the way it’s supposed to be. He came in a most unexpected way and his love and affection for her is plain to see. How he came was unexpected to us but God had His plan in place the whole time.

“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for Me?” Jeremiah 32:27



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